The Perfectionist
This blog – Perfectionism – is a trait I believe I have held, forever? Even that question mark itself challenges that statement.
What backs it up, is that I have been intending to write
this for some time, yet procrastination suggests that maybe I am right.
Anyway, after the conversation I have acted (finally on
putting pen to paper – but – I had to do/follow my research routine of subject/topic
before any words are formed). That has been a good thing.
Maybe I am NOT as much of perfectionist as I
thought after all.
This paragraph is from Dundee
university (that researching…):
Ø The 'perfect human'
is as appealing and mythical a concept as the unicorn. Many of our greatest
endeavours are indeed accomplished while striving to perfect ourselves. Great
achievers, like perfectionists, want to be and do better. Unlike
perfectionists, they are willing to make mistakes and risk failure. Great
achievers recognise mistakes, failure, and general imperfection as part of the
reality of being human.
The strive for the best result
and/or outcome is something I have lived, and mostly live by.
My life continues in more of a positive way these days
than it did a while back. Another WFT statement?
Living, accepting and dealing with MS the best way I can. Not as one planned life. Shit happens! Yet, I’m still here and volunteer helping others with MS too.
So, why perfectionism? That strive.
Is it a problem to address? If so, what could I do about it?
The first step is apparently to realise that
perfectionism isn’t desirable. It is an illusion that isn’t attainable.
Here are five approaches:
- Realistic
goals. Set realistic and reachable goals that don’t take
the piss.
- Ok.
I’ll try.
- Modest
improvements. Set subsequent goals in a manner that,
doesn’t take the piss.
- Ok.
I’ll try.
- Try
for less than 100%. Experiment with your standards
for success. Choose any activity and instead of aiming for 100%, try for
90%, 80%, or even 60% success.
- Ok.
I’ll try.
- Focus
on process. Focus on the process of
doing an activity not just on the end result. Move to become a Progressionist.
- Ok.
I’ll try.
- Cheer
your mistakes and failures. When you make a
mistake ask, "What can I learn from this experience?" I
see failure as a good thing, within reason. Why did it fail? Look to
improve.
- Ok.
I’ll try.
Get the picture. I set my own bar too high. Here are some
examples of what is largely on my mind; a lot:
· Walking.
Duck feet. Head-up (not down. And in the middle, not leaning to the right).
Symmetry (shoulders, legs (knees!)). Russian Army Walking!
· Exercising.
Attempting to copy expert examples with guidance, as best can.
· Words.
Getting the right ones for whatever the occasion, spoken to be understood.
· Numbers.
Not getting annoyed that I can’t do these as used to.
· Logic.
Meh! I shouldn’t be beaten!
So yeah, very much a “me me me”. Well, it is my blog about me! (And of use to others too)
I am VERY much more
of an accepted persona that I was, even a few years ago. But you can see I
still seek that betterment.
That though is in line with my efforts to combat that
heed disease of mine! And as long as it works for me, I will progress!
Roj
1 – 0 MS!
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